You Deserve More: 5 Mindset Shifts That Will Change How You See Yourself

Mindy Sipes
Feb 7
4 min read

Updated: Feb 23

Let’s get real for a second: How often do you settle for less than you deserve?

💭 You put everyone else’s needs before your own.

💭 You tell yourself you’ll start prioritizing yourself after you finish the to-do list (that never ends).

💭 You downplay your accomplishments, your needs, your dreams—because somewhere along the way, you started believing they weren’t as important.

Woman with long hair sits on a bench, overlooking a bridge and a scenic hill. Bright blue sky and water create a tranquil mood.

But let me tell you something right now: You deserve more. More joy, more confidence, more peace, more space to exist as yourself—not just as a mom, partner, or caretaker, but as a whole person.

And the first step to claiming that? Shifting your mindset. Because the way you see yourself shapes everything—how you show up, what you allow, and what you believe you’re worthy of.

If you’re ready to stop settling and start stepping into your power, these five mindset shifts will change everything. 💜

From “I Have to Earn Rest” → to “Rest is Productive”

Somewhere along the way, we were taught that rest is a reward—something we have to earn after we’ve checked off everything on our list.

🚫 “I’ll relax after I get everything done.”

🚫 “I should be doing something productive instead.”

🚫 “I don’t have time to rest.”

Here’s the truth: Rest is not a luxury—it’s a necessity. If you’re running on empty, constantly exhausted, and pouring from an empty cup, you can’t show up fully for anyone—including yourself.

Woman in yellow shirt reading in a wicker swing chair, smiling. Background shows a wooden shed and garden with lush greenery.

💡 Mindset Shift: Resting doesn’t make you lazy; it makes you stronger. Prioritizing your well-being is productive because it allows you to operate at your best.

✅ Action Step: Schedule at least 15 minutes of intentional rest into your day—whether that’s reading, journaling, or simply sitting in silence. No guilt allowed.

From “I Should Shrink Myself” → to “I’m Allowed to Take Up Space”

How often do you shrink yourself—your opinions, your needs, your personality—to make others comfortable?

🚫 You downplay your achievements.

🚫 You stay quiet instead of speaking up.

🚫 You apologize for things that don’t need an apology.

Here’s the truth: You are allowed to take up space. Your voice, your presence, your ideas matter—and you don’t need permission to own them fully.

Illustration of mountains and a wave with text: "The ocean does not apologize..." by Becca Lee. Minimalist design, serene mood. — https://www.instagram.com/beccaleepoetry/

💡 Mindset Shift: You are not “too much.” You are exactly enough.

✅ Action Step: The next time you catch yourself downplaying something about yourself, stop. Instead, own it with confidence. No shrinking allowed.

From “I’m Just a Mom” → to “I Am a Whole Person”

Motherhood is beautiful, but it’s not your only identity. You are more than the roles you play for others—more than a mom, a wife, an employee.

🚫 “I don’t have time for myself.”

🚫 “I don’t even know what I like anymore.”

🚫 “It feels selfish to focus on me.”

You are still YOU. Your dreams, your passions, your interests matter—and rediscovering yourself isn’t selfish; it’s necessary.

Woman in a white shirt and floral skirt stands on a hill with arms outstretched, overlooking a sprawling cityscape. Calm mood.

💡 Mindset Shift: Prioritizing yourself doesn’t take away from your family—it makes you a stronger, happier version of yourself.

✅ Action Step: Make a list of three things you love (or used to love) outside of motherhood—then find a way to incorporate one of them into your week.

From “I’ll Be Happy When…” → to “I Deserve to Be Happy Now”

How often do you attach your happiness to a future event?

🚫 “I’ll be happy when I lose weight.”

🚫 “I’ll feel good about myself when I reach my goal.”

🚫 “I’ll take care of myself when life slows down.”

Here’s the truth: Waiting to be happy is stealing joy from the present. You don’t have to hit a milestone, change your body, or have everything figured out to start embracing happiness today.

Woman in straw hat and girl in garden, surrounded by green plants. Woman laughs joyfully. Sunny day with blue sky visible.

💡 Mindset Shift: You are worthy of happiness and self-care exactly as you are right now.

✅ Action Step: Write down one thing you’re grateful for today—something about you, not just your family. Focus on the now.

From “I’m Not Good Enough” → to “I Am More Than Enough”

Let’s talk about that little voice in your head that whispers, “You’re not doing enough.”

🚫 “I should be further along by now.”

🚫 “I’m failing at everything.”

🚫 “I’m not as put-together as everyone else.”

Here’s the truth: You are doing better than you think you are. You are growing, evolving, and figuring things out as you go—and that is more than enough.